THE GALAVANT GIRL Take a Bath--The Transitory Nature of Water
It was cold in Montreal,
and even though it was
spring, the light and chill of the air relentlessly chanted winter's icy echo.
At least I had chosen a hotel room with a kitchen. Cooking for oneself while
traveling not only makes a space warm, it saves money--and that is exactly what
I needed. My time in Montreal was continually being extended, and with it, the
cost. Endless meetings always seemed to end with scheduling a new meeting. But
over all, my life as an indie film producer was showing a slight forbearance of
success. My film was getting packaged. A casting director had been chosen, locations
set; a director courted. I had worked hard for this moment--and maybe just
maybe--the film I had nursed for the past three years would finally sprout
wings.
Did I mention I was also desperate? Over the preceding three years, I had also invested thousands upon thousands into the film--because some very smart, successful, business men had told me that to succeed in business--even the film business--I must dare to climb up a financial rope and cut the length off below me as I climbed. I had naively taken the dare, sinking the proceeds of my house into celluloid potential. But I knew. I knew if this didn't work out, I would be broke.
The phone rang. Was it the
phone? I was not used to the sound of the hotel phone ringing. I ran to the sitting
room to answer it, and glanced at the clock. It was 8:00 a.m. A pleasant
sounding woman from the film company announced to me in a birdlike voice that
she was sorry to disturb me so early in the morning, but she had been
instructed to call me right away. During their monthly company meeting the
night before, the president had decided to scrap all film projects and solely
invest in television. They would no longer be working with me on my project,
and were calling off any further development. Out of shock, my response was
almost amiable uttering "thank-you's" and "I understand's."
With a relieved lilt in her voice, she wished me well--as if I was a customer
leaving a candy store.
I hung up, and stared at my bare feet jutting out from my pajama bottoms. The verdict had arrived. My project was officially dead, and my thoughts swam. Who else could I call in Montreal? Was there another company I could pitch to?
"Take a bath." The words came out of my mouth before I had the idea to say them. Was that me? Did I say that? For some reason I didn't question it, and walked straight into the bathroom and ran the water.
I stayed in that pale ceramic tub for over two hours. My body began to resemble a cream-colored dried apricot, and my face was swollen. I only cried the first hour. The second hour, I met some sort of numb acceptance. Every once in a while I would drain out some of the cold water, and refill it back with hot. I was determined to not leave that tub until I had some clarity, and after what seemed like eons, acceptance turned into a knowing--a knowing of only the next few steps. I would head home on the first plane the next morning, and march straight to my office. Then, I would commence the closing of my company.
When the water gurgled down into the drain, I was glad to see my former path go with it. I would find a new life.
There have been other transitional or ceremonial baths in my life, and most were instrumental in washing away life's pain--physical or otherwise. However last year, I drew a special bath, and bathed for readiness.
Two weeks before my City Hall wedding in NYC--before I knew that the word "busy" would be a ridiculous word to describe the weeks surrounding my wedding--I drew myself a bath. I placed within it, salts and herbs that for me, represented love. I prayed in that bath. I prayed to ready myself for a life of loving commitment. I also made the conscious choice to allow happiness in my life. I watched the lavender buds swimming around in the water, dancing with the rosebuds. "I choose happiness," I said. "I choose commitment. I choose... love." I rose with solemnity, but also joy.
I am not surprised that there are many spiritual practices involving water, either to cleanse or to let go. Within the Jewish mikveh, a person descends into water unclean and rises clean. For the protestant Christian baptism, one is dipped backwards into water where you "die," and when you rise up, you are "born again" into a new life. For Buddhist funerals, a bowl is placed before the dead and is filled with water until overflowing. The monks recite, "As the rains fill the rivers and overflow into the ocean, so likewise may what is given here, reach the departed."
We cannot escape the transitory nature of water.
If I think about it, maybe I was taught this lesson way before
I realized there was even a lesson to be learned. When I was a child, my Grandmother would pin my hair up into curls
and draw me a bath. She placed in some toys, my "soap paint," a wash
cloth, and left me to myself. I know she kept an ear on me, but I was allowed
to have "me time." I know now by her actions that she was teaching me
how to take stock of my day and prepare for tomorrow--all with a lovely pause
in between called a bath.
Homemade Lavender and Rose Bath Salt Recipe
Ingredients:
3 Cups of Large Grain Sea Salt
1 Cup of Organic (Edible) Dried Lavender
1 Cup of Organic (Edible) Dried Rose Buds
1/2 Cup of Dried Thyme
2 Tbs of Lavender Oil
1 Tbs of Rose Oil
Tools:
1 mixing bowl
1 wooden spoon
3 pint sized mason jars
Mix all ingredients into a bowl, adding the oils last. Place mixture into three pint sized mason jars, and give them a label. Keep one for yourself. Give the others away as gifts.
For a variation: In a small bowl, mix 1/2 cup of this bath salt mixture with 1/2 cup of olive oil. Bring it to the bath as a scrub.
Enjoy.
Did I mention I was also desperate? Over the preceding three years, I had also invested thousands upon thousands into the film--because some very smart, successful, business men had told me that to succeed in business--even the film business--I must dare to climb up a financial rope and cut the length off below me as I climbed. I had naively taken the dare, sinking the proceeds of my house into celluloid potential. But I knew. I knew if this didn't work out, I would be broke.
The phone rang. Was it the
phone? I was not used to the sound of the hotel phone ringing. I ran to the sitting
room to answer it, and glanced at the clock. It was 8:00 a.m. A pleasant
sounding woman from the film company announced to me in a birdlike voice that
she was sorry to disturb me so early in the morning, but she had been
instructed to call me right away. During their monthly company meeting the
night before, the president had decided to scrap all film projects and solely
invest in television. They would no longer be working with me on my project,
and were calling off any further development. Out of shock, my response was
almost amiable uttering "thank-you's" and "I understand's."
With a relieved lilt in her voice, she wished me well--as if I was a customer
leaving a candy store. I hung up, and stared at my bare feet jutting out from my pajama bottoms. The verdict had arrived. My project was officially dead, and my thoughts swam. Who else could I call in Montreal? Was there another company I could pitch to?
"Take a bath." The words came out of my mouth before I had the idea to say them. Was that me? Did I say that? For some reason I didn't question it, and walked straight into the bathroom and ran the water.
I stayed in that pale ceramic tub for over two hours. My body began to resemble a cream-colored dried apricot, and my face was swollen. I only cried the first hour. The second hour, I met some sort of numb acceptance. Every once in a while I would drain out some of the cold water, and refill it back with hot. I was determined to not leave that tub until I had some clarity, and after what seemed like eons, acceptance turned into a knowing--a knowing of only the next few steps. I would head home on the first plane the next morning, and march straight to my office. Then, I would commence the closing of my company.
When the water gurgled down into the drain, I was glad to see my former path go with it. I would find a new life.
There have been other transitional or ceremonial baths in my life, and most were instrumental in washing away life's pain--physical or otherwise. However last year, I drew a special bath, and bathed for readiness.
Two weeks before my City Hall wedding in NYC--before I knew that the word "busy" would be a ridiculous word to describe the weeks surrounding my wedding--I drew myself a bath. I placed within it, salts and herbs that for me, represented love. I prayed in that bath. I prayed to ready myself for a life of loving commitment. I also made the conscious choice to allow happiness in my life. I watched the lavender buds swimming around in the water, dancing with the rosebuds. "I choose happiness," I said. "I choose commitment. I choose... love." I rose with solemnity, but also joy.
I am not surprised that there are many spiritual practices involving water, either to cleanse or to let go. Within the Jewish mikveh, a person descends into water unclean and rises clean. For the protestant Christian baptism, one is dipped backwards into water where you "die," and when you rise up, you are "born again" into a new life. For Buddhist funerals, a bowl is placed before the dead and is filled with water until overflowing. The monks recite, "As the rains fill the rivers and overflow into the ocean, so likewise may what is given here, reach the departed."
We cannot escape the transitory nature of water.
If I think about it, maybe I was taught this lesson way before
I realized there was even a lesson to be learned. When I was a child, my Grandmother would pin my hair up into curls
and draw me a bath. She placed in some toys, my "soap paint," a wash
cloth, and left me to myself. I know she kept an ear on me, but I was allowed
to have "me time." I know now by her actions that she was teaching me
how to take stock of my day and prepare for tomorrow--all with a lovely pause
in between called a bath.
---Elise McMullen-Ciotti
a.k.a. The Galavant Girl
Homemade Lavender and Rose Bath Salt Recipe
Ingredients:3 Cups of Large Grain Sea Salt
1 Cup of Organic (Edible) Dried Lavender
1 Cup of Organic (Edible) Dried Rose Buds
1/2 Cup of Dried Thyme
2 Tbs of Lavender Oil
1 Tbs of Rose Oil
Tools:
1 mixing bowl
1 wooden spoon
3 pint sized mason jars
Mix all ingredients into a bowl, adding the oils last. Place mixture into three pint sized mason jars, and give them a label. Keep one for yourself. Give the others away as gifts.
For a variation: In a small bowl, mix 1/2 cup of this bath salt mixture with 1/2 cup of olive oil. Bring it to the bath as a scrub.
Enjoy.
Posted by Elise McMullen at February 19, 2012 
Categories: Culture, Lifestyle, Life, Inspirational, Writing, Olive Oil, New York City, Travel Essay
Tags: Take a bath bath taking a bath theraputic bath Montreal film producer film Mikveh Baptism Budhism budhist funeral lavender rose thyme olive oil lavender and rose bath salt recipe bath salt recipe water nature of water bathtub hotel hotel room kitchen winter spring ceremonial bath City Hall wedding Jewish Christian Buddhist soap paint Inspirational
Categories: Culture, Lifestyle, Life, Inspirational, Writing, Olive Oil, New York City, Travel Essay
Tags: Take a bath bath taking a bath theraputic bath Montreal film producer film Mikveh Baptism Budhism budhist funeral lavender rose thyme olive oil lavender and rose bath salt recipe bath salt recipe water nature of water bathtub hotel hotel room kitchen winter spring ceremonial bath City Hall wedding Jewish Christian Buddhist soap paint Inspirational
Absolutely love this. Thanks for assuring all of us "transitional bathers" that what we are doing actually makes sense. What a great piece!
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Baths are amazing. Most people would need a strong drink after news like that. A strong bath is better in the end.
My aunt is a reiki master, and she's very much aware of the healing power of water. I emailed her from college freshman year to tell her I could see a beautiful lake from the campus. She said it was always good to see water.
I couldn't agree more.
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I can get lost in your writing. This reminds me just how important it is to take time for your self
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